The Untold Story of Resilience
A Thursday evening at the symphony. A twofold opportunity: to relax and enjoy music, and to increase the awareness of Morgan Harrington’s disappearance. A close family friend, 20 year old Morgan has been missing since October 17, 2009 when she was attending a Metallic Concert (www.findmorgan.com). An unfathomable situation that has gripped her family and friends, and put them on the search of their life for her life. Weeks have now passed, hope is still the operative word that keeps efforts going, and her family telling her story, knowing that doing so means they will reach the right person who has the information that will bring Morgan home.
I was ready to listen; to let my mental meanderings subside as I focused on the instrumental sounds in symphony. An added bonus was the opportunity to hear Natalie Cole, and little did I know what a bonus that would be. A voice of beauty, grace, strength and wisdom, and a stage presence to match. An exceptional entertainer with a presence of heart that enraptured her audience through song, story and imagery. As she casually chatted with the audience, she referred to the challenges she has faced this year as she acknowledged her back-up singer’s recent loss of her father, and suggests that what will help her get through is her attitude and a smile.
At home on my coffee table was the December AARP magazine with Natalie Cole’s picture on the cover, with the lead in, “her untold story”. Intrigued, I proceeded to learn just what challenges she was referring to: hepatitis C diagnosis and treatment; kidney failure necessitating routine dialysis and landing her on the transplant list; the death of her sister on the same day she receives a kidney transplant and thus, a new lease on life, not to mention the trials and tribulations of the previous years. And yet there she was, a mere five months later mesmerizing her audience and me with a smile, a song, and an attitude of grace.
Resilient? Yes. A miracle? She says so. Both? Absolutely as she lives with joy and sorrow co-mingling: joyous for the designated gift of a kidney and her improved health, and sorrow for the loss of her sister and the young woman whose kidney she now relies on.
Resilience: the ability to rebound from a crisis or trauma; the capacity to cope with stress and adversity. A human attribute we can all develop, and yes, a positive attitude and a smile are proven ways of doing so. As are building and establishing supportive relationships, taking care of yourself, giving to others, focusing on what you can do and cultivating a knowing that a higher power is involved in your life that results in a foundation of faith that keeps you soldiering on, and when you think you can’t, its strength wells up from deep within and leads you forward. And brings you that miracle.
We all will experience our share of adversity as each of us lives in our own way our untold story. Adversity is an essential part of the human experience and there is no way to avoid it. Some will have more than their share, others less, and of course, both are simply a perspective for what is more than, what is less than, what is just the right amount? That is for someone, something much greater than I to answer. For now, I will simply soldier on knowing that adversity is a given, and in and of itself presents opportunities to grow, to strengthen my resiliency, and increase my capacity to see and experience grace.
An unforgettable evening with Natlie Cole and her father, whose screen presence made us all just for a moment think he was right there with her, singing by her side. Hmm, maybe he was? Her untold story making the memory of her music, her presence of heart and her attitude of grace even more remarkable.
An unforgettable time for the Harrington family, their friends, the community and thousands of others who are touched by their story. And for many others who are also living through their own adversities. Never have they had to be so resilient, so focused on what they can do and reliant on the tapestry of relationships growing stronger every day as all hold on to faith, to hope that Morgan will soon return home, and to love: I love you too much, forever, and once more, knowing that love is the ultimate currency of faith. 241.
Tell the untold story.
Share the message, 241, I love you too much, forever, and once more, and let it strengthen and grow your relationships.
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Follow the link www.findmorgan.com to download Morgan’s poster, to print and post in areas around your community, to email around raising the awareness and helping increase the odds the right person will see it.
About Extra Ordinary Living
Janet began her coaching journey in January of 2004, leaving behind a satisfying career as a healthcare executive. Working first under the company name, Tiberius Enterprises, in January of 2007, Janet adopted the company name, Extra Ordinary Living, symbolizing her desire to work with people who defy the law of average and want to live extraordinary lives, consistently adding the extra to the ordinary. Her by-line embracing sustainable change is reflective of two intentions. First is to have the changes a client makes have long term positive implications. Second is to live a life that respects the importance of sustaining our planet’s lives for generations to follow.
As an Executive Coach, Janet’s intention is to assist service professionals and organizations to maximize their return on human capital….managing human behaviors for optimal outcomes. Janet has repeatedly found that an individual’s professional and personal satisfaction and happiness is often limited by their very own “human capital.” She loves working with people to identify and own their natural tendencies, abilities and talents; to recognize their limitations, and apply all in creating the life they have historically only dreamed about. As a professional coach, Janet is trained to listen, to observe and to customize her approach to match her client’s needs. She provides tools, support, structure and accountability to help her clients unleash their full potential and optimize results.
Having a coach herself for over four years, Janet has found the best thing about coaching is that it is all about you, the client, and what you want. A coach may share her opinion, and give you advice; however, it is all up to you to pick and choose what you want to accept. A coach suspends judgment, and supports you in your decisions.
With the coaching philosophy as her foundation, Janet is also an inspirational Professional Speaker. She has spoken at local, state and national conferences, providing the plenary session as well as more structured workshops. Her goal is to impart useful, practical and memorable information in a fun and dynamic way to assist her audiences in living extra ordinary lives. Janet always customizes her content to match her audience.
Interested in learning more? Please contact Janet by phone at 540-342-3040, email, firstname.lastname@example.org, or visit the website, www.4extraordinaryliving.com.
Janet Crawford MHA, MBA Professional Certified Coach
Extra Ordinary Living is written for aspiring individuals looking for new perspectives and ideas for living life differently by finding the Extra in the Ordinary.
"Man never made any material as resilient as the human spirit."
- Bernard Williams
"I love you too much, forever, and once more."
- Gil Harrington
Sustainable Living Tip: Reuse the Leaves
They are falling in the thousands, covering the ground with paths of gold and red. Beautiful. But left there for long they will damage the turf so no way around it, we’ve got to get up the leaves. Over the years, I have bagged my share of leaves and sat them by the curb for pick-up. Leaves in plastic bags…something just doesn’t seem quite right about that. With my interest shifting, I now search for better ways of disposing them. A compost pile and mulch are a couple. I have discovered that leaves are a little like spinach: more than a plateful raw shrinks to a mouthful cooked. Seems like there is not enough room for all the leaves, but there is. Check out www.grounds-mag.com for their article on mulching tree leaves or www.buckeyegardening.com or do your own google search. Yes, it may take a little more time and a little more effort. Consider the health of our planet and those beautiful flowers and tasty vegetables that will grow as a result of your efforts.
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